Your most precious moment

August 14, 2008

We generally give more stress on looking at the extreme ends. Interestingly, we generally extend this principle in various aspects of our life. How many of us never use to see due date when planning to pay an installment? Many time we use to predict the future according to our certainty and make plans accordingly. We always give more stress to unknown tomorrow i.e. we generally plan that tomorrow we are going to put more efforts than today . Now deliberating this fact, we are so much assured about our coming tomorrow that we just put most important thing of our life “on hold”. Its really hard to deny this fact. It is adopted behavior i.e. we follow what others do. Resistance to change is quite strong, so most of us never dare to take a step ahead.

I am just rewriting previous sentence in more inherent manner.  We are not looking for tomorrow, we are just planning to make today more relaxed and comfortable. It may be quite dangerous sometimes, we make distance by unnecessary delay and that time gap act as barrier in the communication, soon we reach in the extreme position due to continuous avoidance of circumstances which don’t have any return point, then we loose. There is always some forces which act as “resistance to change” ( laziness and fear factor may be the key factor)

No one can assure about coming tomorrow. I am just repeating one sentence from my friend “No one know, what next moment will bring for him/her.  Only, we will be recognized by our good work and relation we have, that’s immortal”.  I totally agree that some of the task totally related to timing (altering of those may lead to consumer-producer problem) , but most critical one don’t.

We never know that how much of us is having happiness because of you and how much happiness is their in world for you. Everything is hidden in dark side of time. Its time to change things with next maturity level of thoughts. Why we use to delay most important things for us, why we always try to explain our heart to delay most important decisions of our personal and professional life by giving alibi. Some symptoms may be problems faced to reach at current position, fear factor, afraid from consequences, environmental factors and other social/political reasons. Why? Is their any significance of these listed things? Is their any comparison between your importance, will power, passion to reach goal and these minute factors. Then why we always keep ourselves stopped! Why we kill our likings. Instead of thinking about better implementation, we just plan to leave!!! We are independent then why we can’t freely say what we want, why we hesitate in communicating our rights, why we never take steps to achieve our motive? Who is stopping us? These hesitations may make our whole life ruin. Most of us will never ever be able to do what we want right now. We never use to prioritize importance of things and their probable importance in near future.

At personal level, to be the happiest we only have to keep our heart account free. Don’t keep anything pending. Then see how your life will be free from all problems.  It should be mentioned that only heart have deal with permanent happiness, brain don’t.

Don’t wait for unknown tomorrow. Make this moment your most precious moment. Go, let your “special” know that they are really special for you. Let your beloved one, your friends, your family, your mentors know how much important they are for you. How their presence make a difference in your life. Start your future tasks with today. Take your steps toward tomorrow. Leave all old tactics of looking for an opportunity, feeling hesitation in greeting/appreciation someone, waiting for favors. Don’t ruin your life by not caching this moment.  We already wasted lot of time in thinking, now don’t waste time, do what your heart feels.  Stop explaining to your heart, JUST DO IT even Emotional Intelligences verifies this that decision taken from heart is mostly correct. We try to take decision by our own and let other don’t know why we have done this, simply keeping other side in dark. Why we are afraid of consequences when it is always better to do things.

Why you stop because you find some one in  surrounding world when they never run with us, they have their different life and none of them at all interested in us. They are not at all part of your life, because they change with time. We ourselves are responsible for all mishaps.  Why we think that others will be uncomfortable without doing this when we know “most true side of our life is always hidden“. If you don’t do now you may not be able to do throughout your whole life. Honestly ask yourself, why we never appreciate if we want, why we hide things, why I have not taken decision at time, why I am delaying thing,. the only answer is you never compared resisting factor with importance of happening of that thing. Its not for reading,  it is for implementing. Try to implement from today.  Do what you want. Remember, “Failure is always better than ‘giving up’“. Feel breeze of “your new free world”. Even sometimes failure is better than success because when we got success we generally don’t workout on post analysis. But when we failed on something that we gather far more information on that subject,  we try to examine all importance aspects and specially why we failed.

Real losers are those who can’t manage all things together. They always run for one to give up all others. This is mostly true for money seekers. I really can’t understand why we give up one thing for another if things are independent or not competitor. I hope from today onwards you  may make your mind independent from excessive use and try to  lead to your better tomorrow.


Help tips for decision makers

August 2, 2008

We generally never understand that when we will matured enough to take CORRECT decisions. Every time we grow up and our wrong decisions makes input to take correct decision. Quite convincing may be, there is no limitation of maturity and understanding level and correct decision making. “Relative” experience always counts for taking perfect decisions. I specially mentioned ‘relative’, it indicated that if we don’t have knowledge on that topic, take help of experts.

We can simulate decision making to various systems including court and “winning a bid”. All it takes is good understanding and maturity level. Good knowledge of each clues and there future impact. Currently, I would like to take personal decision making rather than professional for proper diversion of the content.

One of the important aspect of decision making is always see stakeholder impacted by that decisions. If any one else apart from you will be in direct impact with that decisions then have proper discussion and get everything clarified and take inputs from every stakeholder. For example, if you are deciding to take decision regarding relations then its not your own. It made of atleast two. So its better to have transparency at every points. Never take such decision by your own. Always discussion with other stakeholder and if you want to take; then explain others that I am taking this decision because of so and so reasons. Keeping any side blank is very problematic and may lead to frustration. In the simplest, if something is strange or awkward, start thinking from that person’s view. It may give you clear picture.

Guys are in general very career prospective(including me). But career and goal is not the only aim in our life. There should be proper abstraction between personal life and professional life. Everything including workarounds, responsibility and goal is totally different for both parts. Its my belief, not quite convincing but it should be like two sides of a coin. One inherent meanings is that never mix-up your professional and personal and remember in special cases “personal” life is having quite high priority over “professional”. I remembered one of the statement of my good friend “Professional assists us in living our  personal life fully”. I totally agree with this statement.

Most of the time problem lies in misunderstanding, it should be clear that two person’s always have different views that may not compatible. So we can’t expect same perception throughout(I am really very poor in making others understand what I mean to say, it may reflect in this article:P).

I really wanted to write this article early because it may helped many of my friends :(. Generally, when we say we sacrificed for some one! really we do? If other side is not aware about it or you are not claiming that you may loose something than this is not sacrifice this is totally foolishness, but ya, timing matters. For examples, many times I heard something like “I have to choose career or his/her” so I chosen career. To my wonder, it is main factor why many of us having tarrying Indian values and looking toward western culture which says ” Don’t take tension, if something annoying you, give up”.  Strange! first of all there should not be any condition to “choose”, it can only exist if every stakeholder is not clear about it. Make other clear that you are gonna loose something which may trouble you in future so they may understand but if we never say something annoying me or causing me some loss and sharing that statement, then it may be nuisance. Many career prospective person(including me) give preference to my career because at one aspect, it will help me in giving me and others quite good condition to live. It also leads to a bright future.

One more thing, Its better to take decision at appropriate time with proper communication with stakeholders rather than squandering the time.

*In Revision

*In progress