January 19, 2016

Why Love Happens?

It is important to know that there is some strong logic behind any strong relationship apart from romantic lines in your palm :-). At subtle level – we are having many thousands Nadi in our body. When a particular nadi near our heart get activated then we may fall in love. However from gross prospective – following seems to be possible reasons.

  1. Soul to Soul Connection: Some soul has power to choose their parents to come on the planet. So they choose two people regardless of compatibility and it generated so strong bonding that it seems that they can’t live without each other. However, when that soul entered into the planet then realization will happen and love evaporates instantly. This happen in more than 10% cases.
  2. There is some complicate relation with relevance to past life which result into strong affection.
  3. Lack of Love also results into falling for someone. It is more like emotional dependency.
  4. Karma impact: Some past impressions which resulted into you going through all these.
  5. Your life is meant to be associated with your life partner.
  6. Due to obligation and deep respect.
  7. You are more likely to fall for partners if they look alike your parent or in some cases ancestors.
  8. Someone is highly spiritual and wanted to settle and you take on vibes.
  9. Miscellaneous.

So I wanted to say that it is not very obvious to fall for pretty girls or smart hunks. Somewhere it has to happen. You have to go through it. But interestingly if you see from the list in very rare cases it should result into prolonged relationship (5).

When you are in Love..

Don’t fall in love – rise in love 🙂

Love is the basis of our existence. Our mind is a big chemical factory – it can generate from life saving chemicals to poison.  However, we need not to bother about chemical composition; Whatever reflect on body-mind complex; same is reflected in form of chemicals. In Brief norepinephrine make you feel presence of special one (changing of breath pattern, heart rate, body temperature and instant joy etc) which lead to release of dopamine (drug impact – you stop listening to others/disconnect/can’t see any juice in anywhere else than him/her) – He is perfect prince/princess and Oxytocin says that my mate is best in the world and I can’t live without him/her and finally Testosterone may work to bring physically together. Phew…

“Love with selfishness or love for individual pleasure, sooner or later will bring misery and heart break”

When someone’s presence make you different than what you naturally are, when your breath pattern changes; you become more conscious. Heart may pump faster. Then it indicates that you are attached to that person.

How to know that you are ready to marry your special one.


Ending a relationship and Heartbreaks

January 19, 2016

“Whatever is yours will always be yours. Anything that goes away was never yours before also.”

Crores of people go through heartbreaks. So it is not you ( you is just reference for ease of writing). This article is intended to make traumatic situation into very smooth step by step transition to freedom. However, this knowledge should be respected and should not be used to break marriage or related lifetime bond.

Heartbreaks need to be very well managed. It can be moderately painful to severe impact.

However, it has positive side also.

When the bud breaks, it becomes a flower. When the heart breaks, the love becomes divine.”

Lets talk about advantages.
1. Burning of Heartbreaks will purify you. You will come out as much better and sensitive person.
2.Eventually,you will start respecting other gender.
3. It will help you in spiritual  growth. You will want to realize the truth of life and you are done with play of Maya (World Illusion). From that point your life may take U turn.
4. 90% people were happy and right that at right time, they are detached from relationship.
5. Come what may, It can’t kill you.6. It will burn lots lots of Karma.

Recovering from HeartBreaks

When heart breaks you need not to manage emotions; heart breaks are physical and you need to manage your health first; otherwise it can take a toll on your health. You may get emotional stress at conscious and sub-conscious level and brain will generate lots of toxin to damage it further. Your mind can start running too much.

However, managing will take care of most of the negative impacts. This is like sure-shot formula to come over it; tried and tested many times. However, it is NOT only this practice but consistent DISCIPLINE will take you out of misery.

“Pain is inevitable; but suffering is optional”
1. We recommend total cutoff from your loved ones. Block everywhere, throw away all memories and don’t respond to call. If you want you can share last message as “I am not angry with you, but I have to look at my life so we are not going to talk for some time. Good Bye”. Yes, it is brave and challenging. Your mind will create idea to skip and make your miserable. SAVE YOURSELF. If you are not going to do this, no one can save you from misery. Sooner or later you have to do it.

2. Most Important and Life saver is to do Transforming Emotions Meditation in the morning and at night when pain is unbearable. Plugin in earphone (or download Sattva app – search for Transforming emotions)

2. Detach your emotions from people. See what is happening in your body.

3. Disha Pranam – It is special technique; can be learned from Art of Living Faculty. This technique will relieve from painful emotions through power of surrender. Extremely easy.

4.Do Sadhana and continue practicing centeredness. It is time for Spiritual Advance level course like Art of Silence program or Vipasana. Straw pranayam, Alternate Nostril Breathing helps. Breath is the interlink between body, mind and emotions. So working on breath will surely help.

5. Love is most precious divine  gift. Nobody except enlightened one deserves love. Enlighten one will not let you suffer. So even though you felt you love is best in the world it is actually zero; just the illusion.

6. Come what may don’t look into the past – Everything is happening in present moment; dead moments don’t hold any values.

7. Don’t be a beggar and stop worrying too much about your ex: Don’t let heart be a beggar. It is the time to regain strength like a lion and move forward. VERY IMPORTANT: Don’t go into chain of heart breaks by expectation of return – i.e. wanting love, attention, respect or anything from that person who hurt you! In Spirituality – it is called getting stuck into pattern. YOU ARE ORDERING TONS OF MORE MISERY.

8.  Don’t Hurt yourself or Others:  As we read earlier – it has a reason. So don’t hurt yourself even if its unbearable and don’t hurt or blame others.

9. Don’t live alone.  You anytime require help.

10. Don’t be in dark or enjoying pain – Let the heart do whatever it want to do. If you notice – things will go worse at night. You should keep doing whatever you want to;don’t give it free time or living in dark. If you have pain then most dangerous thing is enjoying your pain. No keep moving don’t wait for pain to take over you.

11. Crying is natural detoxifier – Whether you are guy or girl. Cry often; it detoxify and relive immediately. It is natural treatment.12. Listening to Trans and Party songs can help. Beats are like pain killers 😀 It let your mind be in present. Celebration can help. You need not to be depressed at all. Dancing is Good emotionally/detoxifying

13. Prayer will help. You believe it or not – all prayer reach to the divine.

14. Keep yourself extremely busy See this video again and again Mending a Broken Heart

15. Healthy flirting will uplift the emotional aspect or hanging out with friends

16. Avoid dangerous ways: Taking support of Alcohol/Addiction/Sex should be avoided. Also, finding another partner to replace current one can be very dangerous.

If still things go out of control contact physiologist/psychiatrist. But you recover for a better life.
Remember, things will be healed by time and grace. Time and Grace are the biggest healer and you will surely be the better person than past. Give Divine an opportunity to do yet you need to follow what is mentioned above 🙂

Love and Relationship

January 19, 2016

Entering into a relationship

Relationship are not meant to give you joy or happiness. So underline fact is all relationship may give pain sooner and later. If you see any real famous love story; it ended with disaster. It is survived by Attachment(Moha) which is distorted form of pure love.

However, it can be turned around depending mainly on maturity and sensibility of your partner and his/her interest in healthy relationship.

It is advisable to enter into a relationship only when you are intending to settle. Yes, healthy flirting (no string attached) and having friendliness will develop the personality. We should be practical to understand the difference between real life and reel life (movies).

If reasons like feeling lonely/emptiness/ not receiving love/craving for physical needs/revenge should not lead into a relationship. So if its free from causes then it is pure and long lasting.

However, same should not stop you from entering a relationship as it can be well managed. To manage negative impact following practices are most important.

1. Practicing Meditation/Sudarshan Kriya etc daily – Meditation will help in detaching from the world and regain the self. Its simple breathing technique yet extremely powerful and give emotional and mental strength. It instantly relieve and reset your state of mind as Happy and Cheerful.

2. Centerdness or Dispassion: Centerdness is to be centered amid all activities. You are complete as a whole. Your centeredness is challenged often and you have to regain it again and again. It is such a bliss which protect you from all sorrow.

4.  Focus on maturing relationship instead of arguing – Nobody is perfect; there will be differences. Respecting differences of individuals and accepting the way they are is very important. Talking out may not help. Relations are not based on intellectual thoughts.

Love and Marriage
“Greatest Love of the world can die.”
Love is never ever sufficient for a person to marry. If you love someone today there is no guarantee that love will remain in near future. It can happen one day you get up and all affection toward your loved ones disappear instantly. But Love may be important initiation.

Love is juice to take marriage to next level but marriage only work on commitment. Quality of Marriage depend on maturity of love and partner. Master’s or Divine love is of highest maturity and then parent’s etc.

Maturity grows with deep understanding and sensibility and giving space for growth and support. Finally, marriage should lead to Spiritual upliftment.

My father asked me- who is important. Your parents or Wife. I told – Parents. Then my father said – No its wife; because with the wife you are about to spend major part of life.

So it is very important to know if the partner is right for marriage. If you are blessed by having Enlightened Guru; then best will come to you. You just need to realize or you can Ask.)

You can do reality check: Keep love aside and see is your partner is emotionally, physically and spiritually compatible with you. Without biased mind, are you ready to take on your whole life with him/her even if there is no love!

Many people don’t know that marriage is precious to uplift spiritually. Marrying a right partner will make your life/otherwise it will make you philosopher 🙂

All said and done – it is also true as per luck for some people; marrying may not be good choice. So it is not always mandatory.

Sometimes you may have to end a relations and bear heart breaks.

God’s Plan

If we see God’s plan in Love – You will understand it is a noble deed. Heart breaks actually intended to prevent/preserve relationship and mature it. There is a virtual bond and breaking this bond will make it painful that’s why you value your partner so much.

Love bonding will help in naturally caring/loving/respecting partner without efforts. It will help in strengthening marriage.

Fornication and Adultry are very costly and dangerous affair. For pleasure of few moments taking life long risk is not the intelligent way to live life. It should be strictly avoided. Virginity is given too much significance ; in half of the world (all muslim contries, China, India etc) – virginity is linked to bachelor’s character and very important critera for arrange marriage. However, life starts from this moment so it should not lead to regret.

Similarly many people say that physical union also make emotional bonding. If you see – When couple unites then there are chances of new soul to enter into the planet. Now if parents do have bonding then they can raise child effectively.

Beyond The Illusion

May 6, 2012

Attention: This is very important knowledge. Please prefer reading in parts.

In Asian region there is a proverb “Everything is an illusion”. So if everything in the world is illusion then what is real!! – it is the absolute truth!! Is that mean whatever we see my friends, family all objects, home which felt very concrete are illusion? We will figure it out in this article.

We perceive world with 5 senses. Currently we can’t go beyond 5 senses – so whatever senses can perceive that we feel is “real”. E.g. for cats and dogs world is black and white. So it can not be discarded that world can have lot more than we see/feel!! There are many example like Mobile – hmm.. there are some waves which we can’t see.. thank god otherwise we will be heavily disturbed by the traffic :).

Lets keep the topic here only and come to the one who is reading this message. It is very important to know ourselves first. Lets discover who are we

Who Am I (without spiritual context): If you see the vast universe there are lakhs of galaxies and each galaxy has lakhs of solar systems and each solar system is having many planets apart from this one planet is our earth. So earth is simply not even a size of bacteria which can not be seen by eyes.. it is so so small. Now, it is easy to conclude our existence – telling negligible is bit more.. we are nothing literally nothing – If someone is looking at whole universe then we can never be seen! So every time when you feel you are bla bla bla.. look at an ant and say oh.. considering this universe I am smaller than you. It is strange – we feel that we are quite big, huge.. specially body builders and one having good height will argue.. but alas! Its true.. you are nothing.. accept it..

So what make us feel special when we are nothing!! Our Ego. Highest possible number is googleplex – 1 followed by 100 zeros. I tell you – Ego magnify us even far more than this.. It make us feel that we exist and we are so big.. we are something bla bla bla.. I tell you .. You are nothing .. wake up from the illusion created by ego. Look at the fraction of Universe below.. the very small dot is our milky wave.. it is not possible to represent anything further.. even that too a fraction of universe.


But how ego is playing a trick and magnify it ??

  Happy to see you.. Magic of Ego. I am sure it is very big eye opener to people who think that they are at top of the universe or who think they are something.. I again repeat it.. you are nothing.. but not insignificant! It is strange to say that when we are so small then what make us insignificant. Most of the thing we see is the illusion including the fact that we are in our body. Stop scratching your head.. You need not to think too much about it as at spiritual path(if you are lucky); you will realize it. Currently, take it for granted. Whatever you can perceive right now is not even 10% of the Truth! So whatever you see may be false!! It is the game of Maya(the Illusion). Everyone in the earth is for specific purpose and purpose is NOT to feed myself and handle my family! Not at all – we are not additional weight and consumer of this earth. But foolishly, people spend whole life without ever understanding their significance!

 We have already seen the illusion of ego – Now feel that if you don’t have or very minute ego then you will come out of certain illusion. Whatever appears to be mine is actually God’s and God has given you to use that for very small amount of time(our lifetime). Even your enemy is not very different from you as it is the game of God everywhere and we are God’s children.

 Now apart from ego, there is another very powerful factors which create magic and save the illusion – That is our senses and supremely Sex. Most of the forms we see – fashion. Love, jealousy, hatred, advertisement, movies, dating etc is based on Sex. So in one way it is create us bigger fools! If you see with unbiased view – Sex is hindering us and make the opposite sex important for us! We feel attraction, attachment.lust etc. Which is certainly not true. Also in the bigger term attraction is also part of Maya – The illusion.


So now it is time to focus on our second biggest enemy – Maya – The illusion. What is illusion – It is primary created by five senses. We can only perceive which is in the scope of five senses. Obviously things are beyond this .. for example mobile phone . Five senses together create illusion of this world as totally different entities. However, quantum physics says that all are made of energy(wave function); but for us all things are different!! Isn’t it odd!

Now lets see at some of the illusion –

Eyes: We think that eyes can see the thing. When you start thinking of something then also image come to your mind – through eyes your mind perceive and also without eyes – mind perceive!

Senses are responsible for creating the whole world! Senses triggers desire – we want to eat delicious fruits, see the beauty so on and so forth.

One of our most important thing which give happiness is Desire!!! Wait – It seems like it does.

Nature of Desire: All desires are having one goal – to give some happiness. Someone may argue that no some of my desire is for loved ones e.g. My daughter should get married and should get good husband. Now if we see that it is related to daughter not you.. but its wrong – it is related to you. You are asking for your loved ones because their happiness contribute to yours. So directly/ indirectly all desire aim happiness but ALAS! No desire can ever give you happiness.

Nature of Desire – Illusion View

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Fire on Ice

January 29, 2012

flaming post like this is the need of time! It is intended to awake you and again make you alive. Please forgive us for being harsh.

Today public forum’s and answer community are flooded with “What is happening to this world”/ ” Why human are getting crazy”/ “I am too much depressed” / ” Is their any suicidal forum” /  “When god will destroy and establish dharma again”/  “My life ruined – I lost my love” / “Society is killing our freedom” / “Why relations are stressful”

It is the common answers to all fools who never realize themselves that they are actually a doll.

We are the intelligent “dolls”:

We are letting everyone to play with our life and we actually act like a doll.

It is very true – Lets take daily life of typical married gentleman  “Smith” – having good wife and good job. We refer “Smith” as “I”(i.e. reader) to make close association.

I tried to wake up early.. snoozing alarm clock many times — that time sleep was ruling us.

Even after opening my eyes – I wait .. oh its too cold.. lets stay some more time in bed. That time I have given control to the laziness.

Laziness released me after sometime.. then I started thinking about charismatic girls/guys or our goal and now given control to emotions..

After getting ready – strong desire of getting good breakfast. If nothing found at home then tried burger, snacks or some light breakfast. . that should be delicious – This time we have given control to desire. Now suddenly I realized its time to worship. Started reading Prayer with 200 words/ min speed and constantly looking at clock. At last finished.

Tried to catch office bus.. but got late.. started shouting, looking angrily to the alarm clock – shouting at the spouse for not preparing breakfast on time.. bla bla bla – This time I have given control to Anger.

Angrily I have taken my bike/car on the road and then stopped for few minutes at traffic light – turned engine off(let’s save the world – go green). Even before turning it green – people started blowing horn.. I tried quickly to turn it on .. but it took 5-10 seconds.. people started abusing for stopping in middle and that impacted my mood and my whole day lost – This time I have given control to them.

At office, one of my beloved colleague is not in good mood and haven’t given attention to me- I felt sad and keep thinking about it throughout the day – what is wrong with her.. sent email  to her but no response. Intensified anger .. Manager’s email popped up stating status of yesterday’s task – now stressed – Given control to Stress. Started worrying — let’s do something today. After working for 1 hour on yesterday’s task dropping an email – Yes I have done this this work and now I am working on remaining.  Sorry for the delay.

Now rashly started checking emails  – found one client meeting after 15 min!! Tried to open document but slow system! hang.. pressed Ctrl + Alt+ Del nothing happened.. started cursing God — “You made me unlucky- troubled spouse, bad job.. I worship you DAILY then also.. what have I done wrong!”. Seen missed call of spouse. I am having 5 mins to release my anger – Called spouse and shouted – ” How many times I have to tell you that DON’T CALL ME IN OFFICE TIME” – replied – ” will you behave properly? You missed your tiffin at dinning table.. I care so much about you and you started shouting..(weeping sound) “.. remaining 4 mins in explaining sorry.

At lunch time – At office mess – started taking lunch.. too much spicy.. started gazing with anger to the cook and then tried to eat. Luckily that time, in front of me- very beautiful girl with hot dress. I keep on looking at her, her movement, her body and started enjoying .. after sometime food is over.. I haven’t even realized.. but still waiting .. let her finish the food.. so started doing gossiping. Suddenly, she looked at me with anger and moved with a “huh” sound .. It made me sad. With heavy heart I started washing hand. That time I have given control to that stranger(that girl).

Things are almost same for everyone bits and pieces here and there. About 70-80% of us are not living our life – We are a doll and giving remote control to others.

Lets take brief analysis of above mentioned routing – I am sure many of you can relate to it(atleast 50%).

1. There was no happiness – kept running for pleasure(food, beautiful girl etc.) and got nothing.

2. Expressing anger, stress, keeping expectation etc were totally useless.

3. We never thank God for giving such a beautiful day and giving us such a beautiful life – instead of this started looking at what is wrong and cursing God!

4. Worship need to be done by heart – it is NOT for showing god that hey buddy I have done worship task now you have to take care of me. Got it!

5. We do lots of unnecessary act without focusing on actual task.

6. Lastly – All problems are with me NOT by this world on environment.

7. We don’t have any control over ourself – We act like a doll.

8. We are depressed because we don’t love ourself – We put ourself at end

9. We don’t ever acknowledge for whatever we are having.. but we keen on feeling bad for whatever we are not getting.

10. We never give time to ourself. If someone ask me – Are you living for yourself-  No! I am living for my family, my parents.. they will say.. for my children etc.

11. We make our relationship and our life suffer – No one else in the world can do. Think again! How anyone in the world can impact me(if I learn to take my control in my hand).

12. We are only taking breath and NOT living..  celebrating life is too far; that’s why we started looking for mistakes in others- I am correct, all others are wrong!!

13. We forget our existence.

So on and so forth.

We are very good at giving excuses like.. yes I know everyone is rulling me but this is the day life should be after all desire and feelings are everything and we should pursue it!! WRONG absolutely WRONG – If you think this the in harsh term you are actually a slave.

Depression and Suffering

Now further stating, depression, suicidal thoughts, sadness everything arises due to our slave nature – we want “something” to make us happy. I lost my friends/ my love/ my close relatives – they were everything for me .. bla bla bla.. First you have created relations. Obviously enough things may not work out always – Not you are suffering because of that .. its okey to suffer but it is very shameful to leave hope of living – You are depressed because you have chosen this. As you have chosen it – you can actually get out of this – You are very very strong – more than your imagination. You forgot this, remember everything is changing and this moment – that you are depressed and all will also change. I will give you a simple clue – when you are depressed then heart will take you further down to the depression and you started enjoying that “pain” which is actually suicidal! So stand up, get up – you lost something, someone hurt your expectation etc – so what, life is not finished – lets throw all these worry to heck and face current beautiful world; weeping and getting yourself down will not help – If you look forward and you know that things will change then everything around you will change and mind will uplift you and that will convert you into your greatest learning! Another hint – surrender: Let me tell you one more secret, We are standalone- we don’t possess anything, no one can impact us unless we want. Most important it, actually we can’t do anything without GOD. God is always with us for supporting us – thousands of time – our life is saved due to God. But we are foolish enough to forget this glory and never acknowledge god. I tell you another thing – If you are depressed then pray God with full heart, do atleast meditation, yoga and Pranayam. Don’t let that crap thought that someone made you suffer – which is completely false(read this para again).  If you are Atheist then you are biggest fool. If you are Atheist then tell me a simple thing – “Who is reading this line” – that’s more than enough to prove existence of God. I tell you even if no one in the world tell us that God exist – we knows because this awareness is in our nature. Something bad might have happened so may be we are very angry with God that is widely know reason. Very important thing, It is not a crime to be depressed as you are hardly having control on it(initially) – talk to your friends, colleague, art of living hopeline and psychiatrist and some knowledgeable person for sake of your life. I can guarantee you that you will feel far far better and you will be happy afterward that you did.

Ask yourself, if someone done bla bla things, or some bla bla things happened – is it the end? Are you so weak!! NO Absolutely not. Foolishly 13-14 year old students are thinking of committing suicide – due to breakup/ failure in exam or dad don’t love me..what happened to them? You haven’t even started living – whole beautiful life is in front of you – How can even think like that. Have you forgot that god exist and he wants you to progress in life – what happened to your goal! Thinking nothing and being slave of depression!

Now we will take a closure look at what is wrong with the world – As per Swami Vivekananda – Now whole world is driven by Sex and Ego. Sex include lust, possessiveness, expectations, crime etc. Ego – include Greed, status, power, dictatorship etc.


Today, it is very important to talk about it as people are abruptly misusing it. Whole world(atleast 90%) moved toward Lust as one of the base of relationship. It is clearly ashamed when people think that you exist in this world only to have sex.  Surely, Now a days it is cheapest pleasure on the cost of someone’s life. It is completely absurd to even relation Love with Lust. Love is our true nature, its at very high level. It is the virtue of our existence.


To be continued..

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Being a Human

July 19, 2010

Assume that you are having only few days on this earth. Yes! you may be leaving this beautiful earth in next few days.  Stop worrying. Now go!! go ahead and write down all important things remaining in your life and schedule it in next five days!! Go get some paper or open textpad and start writing. Forget everything let the world freeze for the moment only concentrate on writing what you want to do actually. what you feel, just write down. Only after  writing move to next para.

Ok! so you prepared list or still feeling lazy!! It is very important for you. Done!! Hmm. read things once again, have you forgot to include something!! feels yes!! you are still having time add it.

Now take a look at the list. This.. this is the most important thing you need to do, Today. Yes, we keep on procrastinating most important thing due to various personal factors(like fear,anxiety, shyness, ego, arrogance and many others). But now, you may not be having enough time to delay it further very few days left. So take initiative TODAY or suffer forever. Add it to your TODO list for activities to be done after reading this topic.

Congratulations, we may be having little bit more time yes, about a year or so more!! Everyone started claiming of the world transition from Kalyuga to Satyuga in 2012(see videos) and this period is known as SangamYug – Last 100 years of transition, which is mostly at its end.

There can be many reasons : Solar maximum(Solar Flares), Mayan Calendar, Bible Code(Armageddon and , Predictions from the lost book of Nostradamus, Planet-X Nibiru Strike, Galactic Alignment(Shifting of poles)) or any other. But we will still think all these things are wrong.. it is just for the sake of our convenience.

(related article: – Finding of Planet X – 1983)

So in 2014 we(ok.. some of us.. ) will be in Satyuga(Golden Age)!! Aha!! The period of our dream. The period where the word security, dishonesty, jealousness, greed, ego, lust does not exist. Everyone feel the same way others do.. Happiest ever, no difference between status.  All are happy and everything is very smooth. All of us are united with the divine love and eternal happiness. Stress free secured life.. everyone know their responsibility and they are managing without any pain!!

Do you want to be a part of this perfect period?  For most of us it may be the best dream. Yes! it is. But it was true and it is going to be true again..

So lets make the list why our world is not like that —

Everyone is greedy people know only “Money”.. many of them can do anything for it. Corrupted leaders!! People have no fear of god, in lying, being dishonest, betray someone, breaking hearts.

Everyone wanted to become bigger, richer. Money is considered as status symbol!! Level of self respect gone down.. ego and arrogance at its best, hashing natural resources. Fighting for regions but NOT for humanity and many more.

Phew!! too big list. Many of us including me believe that there was period of Satyuga – Golden Age. We have seen destructing factors!! but what about common factors!!

At Satyug(Golden Age). world is driven by humans. Yes!! completely like us and yet they able to get lots lots of happiness. Wait!! Have I written “like us”.. are they having some trails? We feel that they are same.. human.. .with in general, two legs, two eyes, two ears, one nose but yes they are far different than us. NO not in physical appearance, but in values.

When we started jotting down cause of the problem, we forgot the biggest cause. It is us. Yes! we!! we don’t want to change ourself, forget about others!! We don’t even understand that we are so corrupted now. Are we having same thoughts when we were 5-6 year old child!! NO!! Why?

Because we adjusted to be a part of this corrupted world and started contributing to it. Shameful.. but true. Actually world is not making us, we are making this world.

We don’t want to change ourself and still keep on cursing others – how many times you realized that you don’t have rights to laugh on others because that person is more skilled? We are too lazy, we wanted God to destroy earth and do the needful but We, as a person will NEVER change!!

It is always easy to fall but difficult to rise.

I recalled a small story:
Once upon a time, Dr. Sunil was practicing in a small town. He got the case of a teenager who turned into chain smoker and having smoking problem. Dr told him to come tomorrow.. On the next day, Dr. repeated the same thing.. come tomorrow. After a month or so, doctor given prescription and suggested him solution. Everyone was in wonder!! What miracle happened today!! Patient’s father asked doctor – Doctor if you were already aware about the solution, why you haven’t helped my son earlier! Doctor replied – At that time, I was also having smoking problem. Now I left smoking!

The simple meaning – Improvement of the whole world starts with-in.

Ok! got enough lecture; lets concentrate on how can I make things better or as an alternative, how can I add to improvement.

You might have thought in one of the similar way. But I believe this article may be the first one to give a clear insight of the fact that how difficult and yet how easy, it is to be a human. What is expected from us. Why god has created such an intelligent species. Among all these problems, this uneven world what we are actually expected to do and lot more.


Taking brief into account.

Does God really exists?

Who read the heading “Does..”. Who  is reading all these things.. Human.. ok ..  is it your body? NO .. then.. soul? .. soul is neutral and rarely have opinion.. so NOT even soul? then.. ya we are actually made of energy which flow in all of us. I believe that it is combination of good and bad, It is in align with the concept of Chinese Dragons(Yang and Yin). Everyone may be aware about aura – the energy surrounding us. So generally good part can be considered as god and bad part as demon. We are combination of both, but at the end we are having power of taking out the black part.

Why god created human?

Simply, to experience happiness. Ya! Bit odd, but true. God has created us to experience enormous happiness and love, which always exist on world.

So Happiness? what on earth.. biggest joke.. It may be true about 200 years ago or so. Not now, in this fast much uneven world.. lots of pain, broken hearts, greediness, fights, natural calamity and many more mishaps.. god has given us such a bad life..This may be thinking of many of us. But it is NOT true.

Ok.. rather than talking about the whole world, we should drill down to much lower level. We, the human are responsible for most of the things. So it is the time we should revisit expectations from us.

What  is the expectation?

No .. it is not the list of hundreds of element. Simply “Be human”

Being a Human

I feel sorry to say that most of us totally lost our values. No if you are old.. you might have  started abusing modernism. Being modern is not bad. Even I believe that modernism is far better than our past. My interpretation of modernism is to have free thoughts, free from science, free from rituals and free from past. Just what we feel. Modernism is “getting rid of past and enjoying today”.

Idealism may be an abuse but it is very important to experience happiness.

What is human nature? Should we go and ask to the person who keeps on killing each other on name of terrorism, religions, politics.. or borders? No!!

  • Biggest thing can be being HONEST. Yes, Honesty is the biggest thing, even in this world.. it is. Honesty don’t mean honesty to our goal. But Honesty means to be honest to yourself first then others. Truth lies on the base of honesty. You can’t fully enjoy what you have if you are not Honest. Believe it or not if you feel that you are .. then it is obvious there is much more  happiness lies inside us.
  • Caring for others: Believe it or not, caring for other human beings make your life superb. In caring, action should speak louder than world. I want to share one of my recent experience: “One person was pulling his scooter for simple reason ‘No petrol.’ I was on the way, I seen him and put my bike about 100 meters away. I asked him whether I can help you in some way. He replied can you please drop me to nearest petrol pump.  Then we gone in search of petrol pump, after three unsuccessful attempts we got success, it is about 6-7 km from that place. After returning to initial location that person was so amazed, he took his goggles and he insisted ako forced to take me that. He told that I was praying to God for helping me out and God listened to me. I was so amazed, still I don’t know the reason why stopped ath that place. It was not the big thing for me. But it given me enormous happiness that even negligible help can be so important for a person and has god really given me honour to be the messenger!!”
  • One of the biggest problem we have is “ego”. Yes!! The “I” factor. We hardly use the word “We” it is always I factor. This will be covered in the next section.
  • The only thing true about life, it goes on. Every problems/pain increase taste of small happiness.
  • Be witty not betrayer. Sometime, whenever we face problems, we need to think independently about it and solve the problem rather than running away from problem. It will help in both way – If our decision is bad it will add to experience and if it is good, will help us in gaining confidence to pattern selected for decision making for similar types of problem.
  • Respect others, same way you do to yourself.

These things are considerably cheap and should be avoided:

1. Taking other’s advantage – It make you feel that you are not strong enough!
2. Laughing/Criticising at others- We are having so much dirt inside us, we don’t deserve to criticise others and if you are not having any dirt, then you will surely not criticise others.
3.  Trying to show we are bigger and better: Shamefully, we spend most of our life in comparison and making yourself bit bigger than others. We don’t fight for basic requirement, we fight to adjust and even get better than others. Like

My neighbour got luxurious car. I should have one.

James earned so much money, I don’t have. I should try to grow more richer at any cost.

I  will get dirty if I give something to that bagger. Huh.. that low class people.

Why should I apologise on my mistakes.. Huh.. it is acceptable at my level(ya.. I have too much ego).

Why should I thank my recruiter. I deserves that, even far better than that.. Huh ..

Today, I have everything .. it is my hard work, my empire.. I created this NOT god.

Huh that colleague is more skilled and surely get promotion. I should make him down. That is the only way I can touch the success.

All humans are equal. Yes you  are equal to a beggar and a president because things fluctuate with very little variance.

We are most intelligent and at the same time most dumb species. Most of us might have heard about the concept, something similar to most intelligent robot, which created for our rescue became the biggest threat for human life, robots  started thinking that if they are most powerful, they should capture the world.

We live in the world full of illusion, we are very low at realization of the truth. The only thing, we can realize is Love and Happiness. Still the first factor is trashed away.

How? I got the responses many times. Almost all lovers say one thing – If I would get a choice to love anyone or No one. I would have opted for second option. It also means that love is not a choice. It happens because it has to happen!
So what is the problem? if it exist at higher level of realization.
Unfortunate, but true all divine things are abused at the moment, whether it is love, religion or spirtual leaders it is impact of Kalyuga. However, we should take it as positive:

Love is the magic which always convert human into very pure form. Believe it or not. If anyone bear the consequences of love, they will be more pure and dropped things like ego, jealousness, arrogance, greediness etc. You can also experience piece and relaxation in pain. Love can turn criminals into good man.

Love is giving not gaining.

Lastly, not getting anything in return – It is nature of love. The world is too less for having any return for love.

That means, we are getting pured almost half of us had love at times!! It never happened before!!  We may think that it is because : We are getting a chance to meet people of opposite sex.  Strange but true, we have changed the definition of love according to our convenience. The butterflies around our chest, some strange feelings and importance for the special one is always taken as Love. But it is NOT true.  There are many variants like Crush, Infatuation, Lust, Emotional attachment and respect. Most of them vanishes at some point of time. But we increase scope of love to include all these things and as rightly said it is very difficult to distinguish between these all. Simplest one can be, Love don’t make you mad or blind. Everything will be crystal clear to you, it is not fun and don’t include pleasure. Love is very matured in nature, yet complex to understand. It is not having butterflies associated with the feelings. It is very possible that you will never realize that you are in love with someone. However any other variants make you very excited and you feel very special. Love is quite spiritual in nature and never driven by human.

Why the variants are taking place: If that is just dilemma or illusion then Why it exists. The biggest cause is : As we know that we are moving away from God so we are equipped with lots of negativity. These variants(excluding respect) are part of this negativity. If we involved into good activity and we are more close to god. Things will correct by itself and we will realize the truth.  Best way is to dedicate all your problems to God and let them take care. Remember, Love exist at very high level of realization even more than human body and yet Love is same for all whether it is your parents, your partner, your brother, any physical thing or God. That also means that Love for a person or thing is NOT different then divine love.  Yet love is a separate entity in itself, it is very possible that it can be transformed.

Last, but not the least, in any of the variants you will not believe on me because of blindness and illusion and you wanted to believe that whatever you are feeling is love. The main problem extend a bit further, when a relation is started with any of the variant even if feelings are vanished but they have no option to carry the relation which results into terrible life.

Whatever written above, if we started implementing them then we may be in the short term loss. But not more than 10-20%. But that will surely add a lot to our happiness account.

After reading this article!! First thing, we will do is to forget everything!! We will never see at our next step whether we are making this world bad or not? It is it.. we like this way .. if we like dirt.. what is your(writer’s) problem? My(writer’s) concerns  are simple, if little discipline can make you happy forever So why not? try changing yourself today and you will see the reaction of the world will change for you. There is very less competition in goodness so we all can always win!!