Entering into a relationship
Relationship are not meant to give you joy or happiness. So underline fact is all relationship may give pain sooner and later. If you see any real famous love story; it ended with disaster. It is survived by Attachment(Moha) which is distorted form of pure love.
However, it can be turned around depending mainly on maturity and sensibility of your partner and his/her interest in healthy relationship.
It is advisable to enter into a relationship only when you are intending to settle. Yes, healthy flirting (no string attached) and having friendliness will develop the personality. We should be practical to understand the difference between real life and reel life (movies).
If reasons like feeling lonely/emptiness/ not receiving love/craving for physical needs/revenge should not lead into a relationship. So if its free from causes then it is pure and long lasting.
However, same should not stop you from entering a relationship as it can be well managed. To manage negative impact following practices are most important.
1. Practicing Meditation/Sudarshan Kriya etc daily – Meditation will help in detaching from the world and regain the self. Its simple breathing technique yet extremely powerful and give emotional and mental strength. It instantly relieve and reset your state of mind as Happy and Cheerful.
2. Centerdness or Dispassion: Centerdness is to be centered amid all activities. You are complete as a whole. Your centeredness is challenged often and you have to regain it again and again. It is such a bliss which protect you from all sorrow.
4. Focus on maturing relationship instead of arguing – Nobody is perfect; there will be differences. Respecting differences of individuals and accepting the way they are is very important. Talking out may not help. Relations are not based on intellectual thoughts.
Love and Marriage
“Greatest Love of the world can die.”
Love is never ever sufficient for a person to marry. If you love someone today there is no guarantee that love will remain in near future. It can happen one day you get up and all affection toward your loved ones disappear instantly. But Love may be important initiation.
Love is juice to take marriage to next level but marriage only work on commitment. Quality of Marriage depend on maturity of love and partner. Master’s or Divine love is of highest maturity and then parent’s etc.
Maturity grows with deep understanding and sensibility and giving space for growth and support. Finally, marriage should lead to Spiritual upliftment.
My father asked me- who is important. Your parents or Wife. I told – Parents. Then my father said – No its wife; because with the wife you are about to spend major part of life.
So it is very important to know if the partner is right for marriage. If you are blessed by having Enlightened Guru; then best will come to you. You just need to realize or you can Ask.)
You can do reality check: Keep love aside and see is your partner is emotionally, physically and spiritually compatible with you. Without biased mind, are you ready to take on your whole life with him/her even if there is no love!
Many people don’t know that marriage is precious to uplift spiritually. Marrying a right partner will make your life/otherwise it will make you philosopher 🙂
All said and done – it is also true as per luck for some people; marrying may not be good choice. So it is not always mandatory.
Sometimes you may have to end a relations and bear heart breaks.
If we see God’s plan in Love – You will understand it is a noble deed. Heart breaks actually intended to prevent/preserve relationship and mature it. There is a virtual bond and breaking this bond will make it painful that’s why you value your partner so much.
Love bonding will help in naturally caring/loving/respecting partner without efforts. It will help in strengthening marriage.
Fornication and Adultry are very costly and dangerous affair. For pleasure of few moments taking life long risk is not the intelligent way to live life. It should be strictly avoided. Virginity is given too much significance ; in half of the world (all muslim contries, China, India etc) – virginity is linked to bachelor’s character and very important critera for arrange marriage. However, life starts from this moment so it should not lead to regret.
Similarly many people say that physical union also make emotional bonding. If you see – When couple unites then there are chances of new soul to enter into the planet. Now if parents do have bonding then they can raise child effectively.