“Whatever is yours will always be yours. Anything that goes away was never yours before also.”
Crores of people go through heartbreaks. So it is not you ( you is just reference for ease of writing). This article is intended to make traumatic situation into very smooth step by step transition to freedom. However, this knowledge should be respected and should not be used to break marriage or related lifetime bond.
Heartbreaks need to be very well managed. It can be moderately painful to severe impact.
However, it has positive side also.
“When the bud breaks, it becomes a flower. When the heart breaks, the love becomes divine.”
Lets talk about advantages.
1. Burning of Heartbreaks will purify you. You will come out as much better and sensitive person.
2.Eventually,you will start respecting other gender.
3. It will help you in spiritual growth. You will want to realize the truth of life and you are done with play of Maya (World Illusion). From that point your life may take U turn.
4. 90% people were happy and right that at right time, they are detached from relationship.
5. Come what may, It can’t kill you.6. It will burn lots lots of Karma.
Recovering from HeartBreaks
When heart breaks you need not to manage emotions; heart breaks are physical and you need to manage your health first; otherwise it can take a toll on your health. You may get emotional stress at conscious and sub-conscious level and brain will generate lots of toxin to damage it further. Your mind can start running too much.
However, managing will take care of most of the negative impacts. This is like sure-shot formula to come over it; tried and tested many times. However, it is NOT only this practice but consistent DISCIPLINE will take you out of misery.
“Pain is inevitable; but suffering is optional”
1. We recommend total cutoff from your loved ones. Block everywhere, throw away all memories and don’t respond to call. If you want you can share last message as “I am not angry with you, but I have to look at my life so we are not going to talk for some time. Good Bye”. Yes, it is brave and challenging. Your mind will create idea to skip and make your miserable. SAVE YOURSELF. If you are not going to do this, no one can save you from misery. Sooner or later you have to do it.
2. Most Important and Life saver is to do Transforming Emotions Meditation in the morning and at night when pain is unbearable. Plugin in earphone (or download Sattva app – search for Transforming emotions)
2. Detach your emotions from people. See what is happening in your body.
3. Disha Pranam – It is special technique; can be learned from Art of Living Faculty. This technique will relieve from painful emotions through power of surrender. Extremely easy.
4.Do Sadhana and continue practicing centeredness. It is time for Spiritual Advance level course like Art of Silence program or Vipasana. Straw pranayam, Alternate Nostril Breathing helps. Breath is the interlink between body, mind and emotions. So working on breath will surely help.
5. Love is most precious divine gift. Nobody except enlightened one deserves love. Enlighten one will not let you suffer. So even though you felt you love is best in the world it is actually zero; just the illusion.
6. Come what may don’t look into the past – Everything is happening in present moment; dead moments don’t hold any values.
7. Don’t be a beggar and stop worrying too much about your ex: Don’t let heart be a beggar. It is the time to regain strength like a lion and move forward. VERY IMPORTANT: Don’t go into chain of heart breaks by expectation of return – i.e. wanting love, attention, respect or anything from that person who hurt you! In Spirituality – it is called getting stuck into pattern. YOU ARE ORDERING TONS OF MORE MISERY.
8. Don’t Hurt yourself or Others: As we read earlier – it has a reason. So don’t hurt yourself even if its unbearable and don’t hurt or blame others.
9. Don’t live alone. You anytime require help.
10. Don’t be in dark or enjoying pain – Let the heart do whatever it want to do. If you notice – things will go worse at night. You should keep doing whatever you want to;don’t give it free time or living in dark. If you have pain then most dangerous thing is enjoying your pain. No keep moving don’t wait for pain to take over you.
11. Crying is natural detoxifier – Whether you are guy or girl. Cry often; it detoxify and relive immediately. It is natural treatment.12. Listening to Trans and Party songs can help. Beats are like pain killers 😀 It let your mind be in present. Celebration can help. You need not to be depressed at all. Dancing is Good emotionally/detoxifying
13. Prayer will help. You believe it or not – all prayer reach to the divine.
14. Keep yourself extremely busy See this video again and again Mending a Broken Heart
15. Healthy flirting will uplift the emotional aspect or hanging out with friends
16. Avoid dangerous ways: Taking support of Alcohol/Addiction/Sex should be avoided. Also, finding another partner to replace current one can be very dangerous.
If still things go out of control contact physiologist/psychiatrist. But you recover for a better life.
Remember, things will be healed by time and grace. Time and Grace are the biggest healer and you will surely be the better person than past. Give Divine an opportunity to do yet you need to follow what is mentioned above 🙂