Love

January 19, 2016

Why Love Happens?

It is important to know that there is some strong logic behind any strong relationship apart from romantic lines in your palm :-). At subtle level – we are having many thousands Nadi in our body. When a particular nadi near our heart get activated then we may fall in love. However from gross prospective – following seems to be possible reasons.

  1. Soul to Soul Connection: Some soul has power to choose their parents to come on the planet. So they choose two people regardless of compatibility and it generated so strong bonding that it seems that they can’t live without each other. However, when that soul entered into the planet then realization will happen and love evaporates instantly. This happen in more than 10% cases.
  2. There is some complicate relation with relevance to past life which result into strong affection.
  3. Lack of Love also results into falling for someone. It is more like emotional dependency.
  4. Karma impact: Some past impressions which resulted into you going through all these.
  5. Your life is meant to be associated with your life partner.
  6. Due to obligation and deep respect.
  7. You are more likely to fall for partners if they look alike your parent or in some cases ancestors.
  8. Someone is highly spiritual and wanted to settle and you take on vibes.
  9. Miscellaneous.

So I wanted to say that it is not very obvious to fall for pretty girls or smart hunks. Somewhere it has to happen. You have to go through it. But interestingly if you see from the list in very rare cases it should result into prolonged relationship (5).

When you are in Love..

Don’t fall in love – rise in love 🙂

Love is the basis of our existence. Our mind is a big chemical factory – it can generate from life saving chemicals to poison.  However, we need not to bother about chemical composition; Whatever reflect on body-mind complex; same is reflected in form of chemicals. In Brief norepinephrine make you feel presence of special one (changing of breath pattern, heart rate, body temperature and instant joy etc) which lead to release of dopamine (drug impact – you stop listening to others/disconnect/can’t see any juice in anywhere else than him/her) – He is perfect prince/princess and Oxytocin says that my mate is best in the world and I can’t live without him/her and finally Testosterone may work to bring physically together. Phew…

“Love with selfishness or love for individual pleasure, sooner or later will bring misery and heart break”

When someone’s presence make you different than what you naturally are, when your breath pattern changes; you become more conscious. Heart may pump faster. Then it indicates that you are attached to that person.

How to know that you are ready to marry your special one.


Ending a relationship and Heartbreaks

January 19, 2016

“Whatever is yours will always be yours. Anything that goes away was never yours before also.”

Crores of people go through heartbreaks. So it is not you ( you is just reference for ease of writing). This article is intended to make traumatic situation into very smooth step by step transition to freedom. However, this knowledge should be respected and should not be used to break marriage or related lifetime bond.

Heartbreaks need to be very well managed. It can be moderately painful to severe impact.

However, it has positive side also.

When the bud breaks, it becomes a flower. When the heart breaks, the love becomes divine.”

Lets talk about advantages.
1. Burning of Heartbreaks will purify you. You will come out as much better and sensitive person.
2.Eventually,you will start respecting other gender.
3. It will help you in spiritual  growth. You will want to realize the truth of life and you are done with play of Maya (World Illusion). From that point your life may take U turn.
4. 90% people were happy and right that at right time, they are detached from relationship.
5. Come what may, It can’t kill you.6. It will burn lots lots of Karma.

Recovering from HeartBreaks

When heart breaks you need not to manage emotions; heart breaks are physical and you need to manage your health first; otherwise it can take a toll on your health. You may get emotional stress at conscious and sub-conscious level and brain will generate lots of toxin to damage it further. Your mind can start running too much.

However, managing will take care of most of the negative impacts. This is like sure-shot formula to come over it; tried and tested many times. However, it is NOT only this practice but consistent DISCIPLINE will take you out of misery.

“Pain is inevitable; but suffering is optional”
1. We recommend total cutoff from your loved ones. Block everywhere, throw away all memories and don’t respond to call. If you want you can share last message as “I am not angry with you, but I have to look at my life so we are not going to talk for some time. Good Bye”. Yes, it is brave and challenging. Your mind will create idea to skip and make your miserable. SAVE YOURSELF. If you are not going to do this, no one can save you from misery. Sooner or later you have to do it.

2. Most Important and Life saver is to do Transforming Emotions Meditation in the morning and at night when pain is unbearable. Plugin in earphone (or download Sattva app – search for Transforming emotions)

2. Detach your emotions from people. See what is happening in your body.

3. Disha Pranam – It is special technique; can be learned from Art of Living Faculty. This technique will relieve from painful emotions through power of surrender. Extremely easy.

4.Do Sadhana and continue practicing centeredness. It is time for Spiritual Advance level course like Art of Silence program or Vipasana. Straw pranayam, Alternate Nostril Breathing helps. Breath is the interlink between body, mind and emotions. So working on breath will surely help.

5. Love is most precious divine  gift. Nobody except enlightened one deserves love. Enlighten one will not let you suffer. So even though you felt you love is best in the world it is actually zero; just the illusion.

6. Come what may don’t look into the past – Everything is happening in present moment; dead moments don’t hold any values.

7. Don’t be a beggar and stop worrying too much about your ex: Don’t let heart be a beggar. It is the time to regain strength like a lion and move forward. VERY IMPORTANT: Don’t go into chain of heart breaks by expectation of return – i.e. wanting love, attention, respect or anything from that person who hurt you! In Spirituality – it is called getting stuck into pattern. YOU ARE ORDERING TONS OF MORE MISERY.

8.  Don’t Hurt yourself or Others:  As we read earlier – it has a reason. So don’t hurt yourself even if its unbearable and don’t hurt or blame others.

9. Don’t live alone.  You anytime require help.

10. Don’t be in dark or enjoying pain – Let the heart do whatever it want to do. If you notice – things will go worse at night. You should keep doing whatever you want to;don’t give it free time or living in dark. If you have pain then most dangerous thing is enjoying your pain. No keep moving don’t wait for pain to take over you.

11. Crying is natural detoxifier – Whether you are guy or girl. Cry often; it detoxify and relive immediately. It is natural treatment.12. Listening to Trans and Party songs can help. Beats are like pain killers 😀 It let your mind be in present. Celebration can help. You need not to be depressed at all. Dancing is Good emotionally/detoxifying

13. Prayer will help. You believe it or not – all prayer reach to the divine.

14. Keep yourself extremely busy See this video again and again Mending a Broken Heart

15. Healthy flirting will uplift the emotional aspect or hanging out with friends

16. Avoid dangerous ways: Taking support of Alcohol/Addiction/Sex should be avoided. Also, finding another partner to replace current one can be very dangerous.

If still things go out of control contact physiologist/psychiatrist. But you recover for a better life.
Remember, things will be healed by time and grace. Time and Grace are the biggest healer and you will surely be the better person than past. Give Divine an opportunity to do yet you need to follow what is mentioned above 🙂


Love and Relationship

January 19, 2016

Entering into a relationship

Relationship are not meant to give you joy or happiness. So underline fact is all relationship may give pain sooner and later. If you see any real famous love story; it ended with disaster. It is survived by Attachment(Moha) which is distorted form of pure love.

However, it can be turned around depending mainly on maturity and sensibility of your partner and his/her interest in healthy relationship.

It is advisable to enter into a relationship only when you are intending to settle. Yes, healthy flirting (no string attached) and having friendliness will develop the personality. We should be practical to understand the difference between real life and reel life (movies).

If reasons like feeling lonely/emptiness/ not receiving love/craving for physical needs/revenge should not lead into a relationship. So if its free from causes then it is pure and long lasting.

However, same should not stop you from entering a relationship as it can be well managed. To manage negative impact following practices are most important.

1. Practicing Meditation/Sudarshan Kriya etc daily – Meditation will help in detaching from the world and regain the self. Its simple breathing technique yet extremely powerful and give emotional and mental strength. It instantly relieve and reset your state of mind as Happy and Cheerful.

2. Centerdness or Dispassion: Centerdness is to be centered amid all activities. You are complete as a whole. Your centeredness is challenged often and you have to regain it again and again. It is such a bliss which protect you from all sorrow.

4.  Focus on maturing relationship instead of arguing – Nobody is perfect; there will be differences. Respecting differences of individuals and accepting the way they are is very important. Talking out may not help. Relations are not based on intellectual thoughts.

Love and Marriage
“Greatest Love of the world can die.”
Love is never ever sufficient for a person to marry. If you love someone today there is no guarantee that love will remain in near future. It can happen one day you get up and all affection toward your loved ones disappear instantly. But Love may be important initiation.

Love is juice to take marriage to next level but marriage only work on commitment. Quality of Marriage depend on maturity of love and partner. Master’s or Divine love is of highest maturity and then parent’s etc.

Maturity grows with deep understanding and sensibility and giving space for growth and support. Finally, marriage should lead to Spiritual upliftment.

My father asked me- who is important. Your parents or Wife. I told – Parents. Then my father said – No its wife; because with the wife you are about to spend major part of life.

So it is very important to know if the partner is right for marriage. If you are blessed by having Enlightened Guru; then best will come to you. You just need to realize or you can Ask.)

You can do reality check: Keep love aside and see is your partner is emotionally, physically and spiritually compatible with you. Without biased mind, are you ready to take on your whole life with him/her even if there is no love!

Many people don’t know that marriage is precious to uplift spiritually. Marrying a right partner will make your life/otherwise it will make you philosopher 🙂

All said and done – it is also true as per luck for some people; marrying may not be good choice. So it is not always mandatory.

Sometimes you may have to end a relations and bear heart breaks.

God’s Plan

If we see God’s plan in Love – You will understand it is a noble deed. Heart breaks actually intended to prevent/preserve relationship and mature it. There is a virtual bond and breaking this bond will make it painful that’s why you value your partner so much.

Love bonding will help in naturally caring/loving/respecting partner without efforts. It will help in strengthening marriage.

Fornication and Adultry are very costly and dangerous affair. For pleasure of few moments taking life long risk is not the intelligent way to live life. It should be strictly avoided. Virginity is given too much significance ; in half of the world (all muslim contries, China, India etc) – virginity is linked to bachelor’s character and very important critera for arrange marriage. However, life starts from this moment so it should not lead to regret.

Similarly many people say that physical union also make emotional bonding. If you see – When couple unites then there are chances of new soul to enter into the planet. Now if parents do have bonding then they can raise child effectively.


Blossoming – Source of Happiness

September 9, 2013

This article is in alpha stage – there is possibility of change of title and content.

Parental Advisory
Enjoying Life..” We use this phrase when

  • After too much drinking and shouting ; hardly able to think.. we say dude you are enjoying life..
  • Have party every weekend and rocking the dance floor!!!
  • Flirting with opposite sex
  • Having very delicious seven course meal
  • Having good hangout with friends

Is that you call FUN or ENJOYING LIFE.. What a ignorance.

Aha! You can ask yourself.. or you might have heard..

*I always wanted to earn lots of money..
*I always wanted to be successful…
*I always wanted everyone should know me..
*i always wanted that my family should be the best and get the best..

Again what a ignorance..
And yes, our brain conditioning is so much hard that if anyone don’t think on these lines then he must be brainwashed or don’t know how to enjoy the life.. you might started having same feeling about me.. but what if whatever I am saying is true!!!

This might be shocking.. If this is all ignorance.. then; what is concrete.. It is giving “me” happiness..

Where is Happiness?
Whatever things listed above falls under just 1-2% happiness available for the mankind.. Yes, I am not drunk.. Something else is responsible for happiness.. Which generally we don’t deal with.. everything last for few mins/hours or months.. Isn’t that happening.. with all our happiness we have to renew it.. and we are in constant search for renewal of happiness.. some pleasant experience.. whether it is your lover or delicious food or amazing night life.. It just do some dangerous conditioning of the mind.. that says boss you have done this this thing last time to be happy then repeat the same..
Isn’t it!! When you go to your favourite restaurant you order for tried and tested things often… Right?
but think think think.. what is the source of all these happiness.. is these things – food, relations or adventure are putting happiness inside you.. NOPE they may be triggering very small fraction of happiness. In Ocean you throw some stones then what will happen.. some ripples are created.. how much time it take to settle.. Got it; yes, you are right ..You are so full you are the ocean of Bliss and something trigger very little bit of the big ocean… You can always have access to Big ocean.. you will not understand what I am telling you; experiencing the whole new arena of experiences.. where you will feel that whatever life  you have right now so not even 10% of what I am living right now.. Your quality of enjoy will grow manifolds. You will start enjoying every moments.. boredom will run away.. just by knowing that ocean.. and yes you can get the whole ocean.. don’t you know what is enlightenment all about?
I use to be excited about SMS stating that don’t tease girl, don’t drink alcohol etc etc.. and we use to have great laugh.. what the life would be…without all these..  but is it?

Secrets

There are two biggest secrets of the world – “You” and “God”. Forget about Who Am I.. but where is God, who is God! Answer to all these is that God exist  and almost all spiritual person have experienced it. Yes, you can only experience God. It is extremely easy. When you do few months practice of Sudarshan Kriya or Go very deep in meditation by continuous practicing for many months .. you will experience the pinch of Bliss.. The ultimate relaxation and peace which come from switching off everything .. may be only for few fraction of seconds but that is it.. and you are never the same again.. you will not fall under 1% happiness trap. Oh! Are you still wasting time by not experiencing it and practicing the same?????

It is just the mind game
Oh you have too much in your head.. but still not empty..
What happen when you dream.. don’t it feel like real!! Why it also impact emotions.. were you ever aware that you are dreaming!! Nope.. then does it mean that mind creates everything.. how come it may occur.. it is ofcourse not the memory.. you feel it absolutely real and you know what thoughts is..
Mind is not in body’ infact body is in Mind.
Oh! There is something else which is very obvious… so does it mean that there is chances to wake up from all these.. S you got a clue about enlightenment..

Why people are so fascinated about enlightenment
Our true nature is Bliss; nope not happiness; there are other levels..
People are too much confused with the wordings.. Pleasure, Happiness and now never heard.. and yet not experience “Bliss”.. Hey it is not like that you never experienced.. may be your happiest moment is somewhat 10% of the bliss moment.
To experience one moment of Bliss – that state for which you will be ready to dedicate many lifetimes. But Alas to mind conditioning of Kalyuga – we waste whole lifetime without experiencing “Bliss”.  Yes, you heard it right.. Whatever life any non-spiritual person have its just “they have to live that life”…
But how can we experience the bliss?

You are SOURCE not the DESTINATION

Yes it may be shocking to you again.. but that realization is extremely important. You need to be extremely lucky to experience that practically.. It is proved by reading this article that you are lucky that atleast you know very precious knowledge.

Yes, You are the SOURCE
1. Of all Happiness
2. Of all Knowledge
3. Of All Happening and specially your life!!

We always think that we are the destination of happiness. We watch good movies, or see comedy programs, do some adventurous stuff.. all is just waste of time.. Thinking that you are the destination and not the source!! then where is the source!??? Dear – You are the SOURCE. Yes same applies for Physical Pleasure.. that is just not even 1% of happiness available to you.
You might have thought that spiritual person are fools they don’t bother about things like you do and they are just spoiling everything bla bla bla.. Actually their life is far better and beautiful.. you can’t even imagine.. they are enjoying like anything.. you can’t even think of .. but still you need not to be greedy.. as you need lots of luck to experience that life. But understanding this fact is very important.
There are things ahead of perception of our little mind. Human is not the highest form of creation – but being human being we can reach the highest.
See the graph below. It clearly indicates that regardless of your utter hard work and contribution – if you haven’t grown spiritually; you will fall in 1-2% of happiness range and with heavily influence by negative emotions and just a bit of God particle.

Level of Happiness

When you started having spiritual experiences then you automatically attach to God and you start experiencing God. There will be huge difference in worship and rituals before being spiritual and after.. you may got intoxicated with the divine.. that moment when every particle contribute to your energy when everything blossom for you, become brighter.. you find many times bigger world inside you… with ultimate relaxation much greater than thoughtlessness.. all brain nerves going into deep relaxation.. peace with full of juice;. that can’t be expressed in words… the absolute comfort deep relaxation when you don’t want to open your eyes… yes that’s the moment you start experiencing God. Unfortunate are those who even not experienced state of meditation.

Events of your life


Forget about your facts of atheism or reincarnation.. there is no doubt that it exist – I can tell you with 100% Assurance and yes, there are many layers of reality – beyond our all imagination Infact.. your current life is combination of many past lives karma.. whether good or bad whatever happening in your life is heavily influenced by karma. There is very interesting program running behind the scene which is making current picture in front you. However, I will not go into complexity.
This picture will help you understand Karma influence on your current life. So stop blaming others – that has to come into your life.. now don’t bother too much about past.. that is gone.. work on the things you can change.

Influence of Karma
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Seva – Selfless Service

If you want to instantly experience a high quality joy – This is the way selfless service. It is directly associated to contentment and happiness..

You being the source are here to “Give”

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This blog article content are compiled by knowledge from various sources- my master’s wisdom- H. H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Art of Living, Yoga Vashist, Patanjali Yoga Sutra, Bhagvad Geeta and many other spiritual treasures.


Are You U++

January 7, 2013

Apart from Blood Groups all of us also divided into four groups U++, U+ and U-, U–. Unfortunately 90%+ people are U- or U–.

When you are having surplus money, you plan to invest it with the intention to grow. Some are Investors who are not having that much patience to grow they become Traders!! They enjoy good return .. Sometimes. Most of you expect that whatever invested should grow Ok. Lets think if someone say what do you do? You start with saying that you are a software engineer or pilot etc etc.. these are actually role which are assigned to you. You are on this role mostly to earn money.

I keep of seeing many people crying that God is too bad for me for bla bla reasons and keep blaming that give rise to another atheist. Have you seen the other view? – Ask Yourself Are you doing enough for God?? It sounds strange but it is the matter of the fact – Just think that God created you, given you new life, parents, family, friends, happiness, beautiful nature, water, love and whole time what are we doing – we are snatching resources from the earth and others without giving any significant thing in return! That give rise to new blood groups U-, U–. Now wait a while and think when you haven’t done anything significant for God then what make you think that God should give you everything what you want(as per your thought) in life! Ideally, it should be nearly zero – which actually reflect how much change you made in other people’s life! So you are already at loan – You deserve nothing but we are getting too much – Two legs, two hands, beautiful eyes, great life – being HUMAN, enough to eat, accessibility to internet and lot more.. we are so much lucky that even though we DON’T DESERVE but god bestowed his blessings and infinite love to us!

In developing nation including India, many people start their life in earning money and end up doing the same! Without any other significant contribution! Here are the responses at different age
Teen age: Why have you taken engineering?
Ans: More job options.

2 years after getting job
Now you got the job! What do you want next?
Ans: To get good hike and appreciation

35+ year old person
Okey, you have done enough job and everything; now its time to do something for society. Isn’t it!!
Ans: NO, I have to earn for my family! I have to live for them.. once everything is done then I will think about Society.

60+ year old person
Now everything is done, lets do something for society
Ans: NOT AT ALL, How dare you to think about it! What is the use of doing for society – No one have done for me.. I have taken all pain to grow my families, my grandson and bla bla.. it is time to take rest and take the name of God.. and see my grandson marry.

LIFE END

But in whole life there were almost NO PEACE, NO HAPPINESS, NO JOY, NO ENTHUSIASM, NO SERVICE. Typical U(Usefulness)– or U- Condition.

So if you are falling in this or even similar trend then S.T.O.P. Where are you leading your life..??? Wasting another life?????

Fools say that involved in good things at the age of 60 or someone even say 75!! But that is something we are born for? Isn’t it?

WHY TO BE U+ or U++ (Useful and Very Useful)

First, when you become useful – when you earn enough for you and your family!!! I tell you that day will NEVER COME. It is always NOW, this very moment; Will people remember you after death? Lets see name of all important person from the history – Mother Teresa, Einstein, Newton or Now – H. H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Nelson Mandela. Why? because they have contributed to society; So if you are not U+/U++.. then why people will even bother to remember you..

JOY OF GIVING is one of the biggest joy available on planet – If you don’t know then experience it! Selflessly help poor and see what changes are happening inside you! It is one of the only thing which can give you contentment, satisfaction and lot lot more.

Here is our definition of Heaven and Hell.


When I am doing for only “Myself” it is Hell.
When We are doing for ourselves then it is heaven.

Think, if you have a problem and hundreds of hand are offering help – What can be better life then that! Similarly hundred people are celebrating your happiness then wouldn’t it will grow many folds?

“You” are totally responsible for tomorrow. “You” start taking out time for others and serving and helping others unconditionally and see your whole life will grow, nurture, appreciate! It is the best thing to do and our only mean of being on this planet.


Beyond The Illusion

May 6, 2012

Attention: This is very important knowledge. Please prefer reading in parts.

In Asian region there is a proverb “Everything is an illusion”. So if everything in the world is illusion then what is real!! – it is the absolute truth!! Is that mean whatever we see my friends, family all objects, home which felt very concrete are illusion? We will figure it out in this article.

We perceive world with 5 senses. Currently we can’t go beyond 5 senses – so whatever senses can perceive that we feel is “real”. E.g. for cats and dogs world is black and white. So it can not be discarded that world can have lot more than we see/feel!! There are many example like Mobile – hmm.. there are some waves which we can’t see.. thank god otherwise we will be heavily disturbed by the traffic :).

Lets keep the topic here only and come to the one who is reading this message. It is very important to know ourselves first. Lets discover who are we

Who Am I (without spiritual context): If you see the vast universe there are lakhs of galaxies and each galaxy has lakhs of solar systems and each solar system is having many planets apart from this one planet is our earth. So earth is simply not even a size of bacteria which can not be seen by eyes.. it is so so small. Now, it is easy to conclude our existence – telling negligible is bit more.. we are nothing literally nothing – If someone is looking at whole universe then we can never be seen! So every time when you feel you are bla bla bla.. look at an ant and say oh.. considering this universe I am smaller than you. It is strange – we feel that we are quite big, huge.. specially body builders and one having good height will argue.. but alas! Its true.. you are nothing.. accept it..

So what make us feel special when we are nothing!! Our Ego. Highest possible number is googleplex – 1 followed by 100 zeros. I tell you – Ego magnify us even far more than this.. It make us feel that we exist and we are so big.. we are something bla bla bla.. I tell you .. You are nothing .. wake up from the illusion created by ego. Look at the fraction of Universe below.. the very small dot is our milky wave.. it is not possible to represent anything further.. even that too a fraction of universe.

 

But how ego is playing a trick and magnify it ??

  Happy to see you.. Magic of Ego. I am sure it is very big eye opener to people who think that they are at top of the universe or who think they are something.. I again repeat it.. you are nothing.. but not insignificant! It is strange to say that when we are so small then what make us insignificant. Most of the thing we see is the illusion including the fact that we are in our body. Stop scratching your head.. You need not to think too much about it as at spiritual path(if you are lucky); you will realize it. Currently, take it for granted. Whatever you can perceive right now is not even 10% of the Truth! So whatever you see may be false!! It is the game of Maya(the Illusion). Everyone in the earth is for specific purpose and purpose is NOT to feed myself and handle my family! Not at all – we are not additional weight and consumer of this earth. But foolishly, people spend whole life without ever understanding their significance!

 We have already seen the illusion of ego – Now feel that if you don’t have or very minute ego then you will come out of certain illusion. Whatever appears to be mine is actually God’s and God has given you to use that for very small amount of time(our lifetime). Even your enemy is not very different from you as it is the game of God everywhere and we are God’s children.

 Now apart from ego, there is another very powerful factors which create magic and save the illusion – That is our senses and supremely Sex. Most of the forms we see – fashion. Love, jealousy, hatred, advertisement, movies, dating etc is based on Sex. So in one way it is create us bigger fools! If you see with unbiased view – Sex is hindering us and make the opposite sex important for us! We feel attraction, attachment.lust etc. Which is certainly not true. Also in the bigger term attraction is also part of Maya – The illusion.

 Maya(Illusion)

So now it is time to focus on our second biggest enemy – Maya – The illusion. What is illusion – It is primary created by five senses. We can only perceive which is in the scope of five senses. Obviously things are beyond this .. for example mobile phone . Five senses together create illusion of this world as totally different entities. However, quantum physics says that all are made of energy(wave function); but for us all things are different!! Isn’t it odd!

Now lets see at some of the illusion –

Eyes: We think that eyes can see the thing. When you start thinking of something then also image come to your mind – through eyes your mind perceive and also without eyes – mind perceive!

Senses are responsible for creating the whole world! Senses triggers desire – we want to eat delicious fruits, see the beauty so on and so forth.

One of our most important thing which give happiness is Desire!!! Wait – It seems like it does.

Nature of Desire: All desires are having one goal – to give some happiness. Someone may argue that no some of my desire is for loved ones e.g. My daughter should get married and should get good husband. Now if we see that it is related to daughter not you.. but its wrong – it is related to you. You are asking for your loved ones because their happiness contribute to yours. So directly/ indirectly all desire aim happiness but ALAS! No desire can ever give you happiness.

Nature of Desire – Illusion View

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Fire on Ice

January 29, 2012

flaming post like this is the need of time! It is intended to awake you and again make you alive. Please forgive us for being harsh.

Today public forum’s and answer community are flooded with “What is happening to this world”/ ” Why human are getting crazy”/ “I am too much depressed” / ” Is their any suicidal forum” /  “When god will destroy and establish dharma again”/  “My life ruined – I lost my love” / “Society is killing our freedom” / “Why relations are stressful”

It is the common answers to all fools who never realize themselves that they are actually a doll.

We are the intelligent “dolls”:

We are letting everyone to play with our life and we actually act like a doll.

It is very true – Lets take daily life of typical married gentleman  “Smith” – having good wife and good job. We refer “Smith” as “I”(i.e. reader) to make close association.

I tried to wake up early.. snoozing alarm clock many times — that time sleep was ruling us.

Even after opening my eyes – I wait .. oh its too cold.. lets stay some more time in bed. That time I have given control to the laziness.

Laziness released me after sometime.. then I started thinking about charismatic girls/guys or our goal and now given control to emotions..

After getting ready – strong desire of getting good breakfast. If nothing found at home then tried burger, snacks or some light breakfast. . that should be delicious – This time we have given control to desire. Now suddenly I realized its time to worship. Started reading Prayer with 200 words/ min speed and constantly looking at clock. At last finished.

Tried to catch office bus.. but got late.. started shouting, looking angrily to the alarm clock – shouting at the spouse for not preparing breakfast on time.. bla bla bla – This time I have given control to Anger.

Angrily I have taken my bike/car on the road and then stopped for few minutes at traffic light – turned engine off(let’s save the world – go green). Even before turning it green – people started blowing horn.. I tried quickly to turn it on .. but it took 5-10 seconds.. people started abusing for stopping in middle and that impacted my mood and my whole day lost – This time I have given control to them.

At office, one of my beloved colleague is not in good mood and haven’t given attention to me- I felt sad and keep thinking about it throughout the day – what is wrong with her.. sent email  to her but no response. Intensified anger .. Manager’s email popped up stating status of yesterday’s task – now stressed – Given control to Stress. Started worrying — let’s do something today. After working for 1 hour on yesterday’s task dropping an email – Yes I have done this this work and now I am working on remaining.  Sorry for the delay.

Now rashly started checking emails  – found one client meeting after 15 min!! Tried to open document but slow system! hang.. pressed Ctrl + Alt+ Del nothing happened.. started cursing God — “You made me unlucky- troubled spouse, bad job.. I worship you DAILY then also.. what have I done wrong!”. Seen missed call of spouse. I am having 5 mins to release my anger – Called spouse and shouted – ” How many times I have to tell you that DON’T CALL ME IN OFFICE TIME” – replied – ” will you behave properly? You missed your tiffin at dinning table.. I care so much about you and you started shouting..(weeping sound) “.. remaining 4 mins in explaining sorry.

At lunch time – At office mess – started taking lunch.. too much spicy.. started gazing with anger to the cook and then tried to eat. Luckily that time, in front of me- very beautiful girl with hot dress. I keep on looking at her, her movement, her body and started enjoying .. after sometime food is over.. I haven’t even realized.. but still waiting .. let her finish the food.. so started doing gossiping. Suddenly, she looked at me with anger and moved with a “huh” sound .. It made me sad. With heavy heart I started washing hand. That time I have given control to that stranger(that girl).

Things are almost same for everyone bits and pieces here and there. About 70-80% of us are not living our life – We are a doll and giving remote control to others.

Lets take brief analysis of above mentioned routing – I am sure many of you can relate to it(atleast 50%).

1. There was no happiness – kept running for pleasure(food, beautiful girl etc.) and got nothing.

2. Expressing anger, stress, keeping expectation etc were totally useless.

3. We never thank God for giving such a beautiful day and giving us such a beautiful life – instead of this started looking at what is wrong and cursing God!

4. Worship need to be done by heart – it is NOT for showing god that hey buddy I have done worship task now you have to take care of me. Got it!

5. We do lots of unnecessary act without focusing on actual task.

6. Lastly – All problems are with me NOT by this world on environment.

7. We don’t have any control over ourself – We act like a doll.

8. We are depressed because we don’t love ourself – We put ourself at end

9. We don’t ever acknowledge for whatever we are having.. but we keen on feeling bad for whatever we are not getting.

10. We never give time to ourself. If someone ask me – Are you living for yourself-  No! I am living for my family, my parents.. they will say.. for my children etc.

11. We make our relationship and our life suffer – No one else in the world can do. Think again! How anyone in the world can impact me(if I learn to take my control in my hand).

12. We are only taking breath and NOT living..  celebrating life is too far; that’s why we started looking for mistakes in others- I am correct, all others are wrong!!

13. We forget our existence.

So on and so forth.

We are very good at giving excuses like.. yes I know everyone is rulling me but this is the day life should be after all desire and feelings are everything and we should pursue it!! WRONG absolutely WRONG – If you think this the in harsh term you are actually a slave.

Depression and Suffering

Now further stating, depression, suicidal thoughts, sadness everything arises due to our slave nature – we want “something” to make us happy. I lost my friends/ my love/ my close relatives – they were everything for me .. bla bla bla.. First you have created relations. Obviously enough things may not work out always – Not you are suffering because of that .. its okey to suffer but it is very shameful to leave hope of living – You are depressed because you have chosen this. As you have chosen it – you can actually get out of this – You are very very strong – more than your imagination. You forgot this, remember everything is changing and this moment – that you are depressed and all will also change. I will give you a simple clue – when you are depressed then heart will take you further down to the depression and you started enjoying that “pain” which is actually suicidal! So stand up, get up – you lost something, someone hurt your expectation etc – so what, life is not finished – lets throw all these worry to heck and face current beautiful world; weeping and getting yourself down will not help – If you look forward and you know that things will change then everything around you will change and mind will uplift you and that will convert you into your greatest learning! Another hint – surrender: Let me tell you one more secret, We are standalone- we don’t possess anything, no one can impact us unless we want. Most important it, actually we can’t do anything without GOD. God is always with us for supporting us – thousands of time – our life is saved due to God. But we are foolish enough to forget this glory and never acknowledge god. I tell you another thing – If you are depressed then pray God with full heart, do atleast meditation, yoga and Pranayam. Don’t let that crap thought that someone made you suffer – which is completely false(read this para again).  If you are Atheist then you are biggest fool. If you are Atheist then tell me a simple thing – “Who is reading this line” – that’s more than enough to prove existence of God. I tell you even if no one in the world tell us that God exist – we knows because this awareness is in our nature. Something bad might have happened so may be we are very angry with God that is widely know reason. Very important thing, It is not a crime to be depressed as you are hardly having control on it(initially) – talk to your friends, colleague, art of living hopeline and psychiatrist and some knowledgeable person for sake of your life. I can guarantee you that you will feel far far better and you will be happy afterward that you did.

Ask yourself, if someone done bla bla things, or some bla bla things happened – is it the end? Are you so weak!! NO Absolutely not. Foolishly 13-14 year old students are thinking of committing suicide – due to breakup/ failure in exam or dad don’t love me..what happened to them? You haven’t even started living – whole beautiful life is in front of you – How can even think like that. Have you forgot that god exist and he wants you to progress in life – what happened to your goal! Thinking nothing and being slave of depression!

Now we will take a closure look at what is wrong with the world – As per Swami Vivekananda – Now whole world is driven by Sex and Ego. Sex include lust, possessiveness, expectations, crime etc. Ego – include Greed, status, power, dictatorship etc.

Sex:

Today, it is very important to talk about it as people are abruptly misusing it. Whole world(atleast 90%) moved toward Lust as one of the base of relationship. It is clearly ashamed when people think that you exist in this world only to have sex.  Surely, Now a days it is cheapest pleasure on the cost of someone’s life. It is completely absurd to even relation Love with Lust. Love is our true nature, its at very high level. It is the virtue of our existence.

 

To be continued..